When it comes to your self-esteem needs, settling for less is not an option
In Indian society where sacrifice is considered a virtue, we often put the needs of others’ before our own. But when we neglect our own wants and desires, it can lead to feelings of unhappiness and frustration. Over time our self-worth or self-esteem begins to dip.
Low self-esteem can affect all areas of our life. At work, low self-worth can lead to low confidence, which in turn can affect productivity. In relationships, low self-esteem can make us feel insecure. Overall, we end up letting go of opportunities to grow and thrive because we feel don’t deserve them.
Therefore, maintaining high self-esteem becomes an essential part of creating a fulfilled and joyful life. If you feel that your self-esteem could use a step up, here are some things you could try:
- People Pleasure: Surround yourself with people that make you feel good about yourself instead of those who put you down or disrespect you. These could be friends who encourage your dreams, family members who support you or colleagues who encourage you to grow. When we get positive feedback from people around us, we begin to internalise that same positivity about ourselves.
- Do the Deeds: Do things that you love, especially activities that you are good at. When we feel we have accomplished something, it boosts our confidence to try our hand at other things.
- Strength Focus: Take out time to identify your strengths. Ask your close friends or colleagues. Make it a fun activity and focus on everything that’s good about you. This can help remind ourselves that we are not our mistakes or weaknesses, and there is a lot in us to value.
- Embrace Uniqueness: Instead of comparing yourself to others or their accomplishments, try to focus on your own individuality. Each person is different in his or her own way. What you have to offer to the world is yours alone. Embracing our uniqueness can make us feel special and worthy.
- Identify Unhelpful Thoughts: Catch negative thoughts that might be pulling down your self-confidence. These could be thoughts like “I’m not good enough” or “I can’t do it”. Often what we tell ourselves is what we believe to be true. Changing these negative thoughts to more positive ones can help boost self-esteem.
- Self Care: Check if you are neglecting your needs and wants in any way. Are you feeling dissatisfied in a relationship and can you speak up about it? Have you been neglecting your sleep? Are you eating enough? Catering to your needs is a good way to take care of yourself instead of waiting for others to do it. Taking care of ourselves reminds us that we are important.
Remember that a little bit of self-love can go a long way. So treat yourself with respect and care; you deserve it.